I realised today that I have taken on too many commitments for the end of the week and I am going to have to try to rearrange some for another day. We are out tomorrow night with friends, then having some friends around for supper on Saturday and at the moment I am scheduled to go out on Friday afternoon for my birthday treat – afternoon tea with my friend and neighbour.
I am sure I will struggle to get the house prepared and will be running short of time. I desperately need to have my hair cut and I had wanted to treat myself to a massage. Added to which every time I look out of the window – any window I see many jobs to do in the garden.
I mention the above as I am now reading Chapter 2 entitled ‘In praise of minimalism’ from the book I mentioned ‘L’art de la Simplicite’
subtitle – Time: waste less, make the most of more.
In this chapter it talks about simplifying your life and embracing every moment including time to do nothing. If I had time to do nothing I would have heaps of time to get everything done…wouldn’t I?
Simplify your domestic tasks and find time to develop your creativity, pamper your body and sharpen your mental faculties.
This is most definitely one of my goals – how to achieve this is perhaps the one big question in my life.
I do love domesticity even the tasks some people may think of as mundane – washing dishes, ironing clothes and putting everything back in place neat and orderly. To do this with everything though I find difficult and tasks start to pile up over the week.
Reading on the book talks about repetitive, everyday tasks and developing simple actions as rituals. I must confess I have never thought about eating or cleaning as a ritual but it has caught my attention. Rituals, it says, can bring comfort – they should be a source of extreme satisfaction. She then suggests some rituals such as the ‘writing ritual’, the ‘bath ritual’, the ‘shopping ritual’, and the ‘flower ritual’.
She suggests you think about your own personal rituals and what they bring to your life.
I was surprised to find I have quite a few rituals already-
The morning ritual
A morning ritual of showering and getting ready for work but not on my days off. (Just to clarify on this – I do shower but I may have pottered around the house for an hour in my dressing gown beforehand!). On my working days it means I am ready to start the day at a reasonable hour and could answer the door to anyone from 8am onwards not looking too scary! Not so on my days off.
The going to bed ritual
I have a ritual for going to bed – I will always remove the dirt and grime of the day from my face with a cleanser then use washing cream to freshen my skin and put on plenty of night cream – I need it – but I never make it to bed at the same time each night.
The breakfast ritual
I have a ritual for breakfast – I usually eat the same food – Yoghurt, sometimes with fruit followed by muesli and soya milk – I am not sure this is a great ritual and would like to vary my diet more. It is however a breakfast that keeps me going all morning if I do not get a break.
The pedicure ritual
I pamper my feet at least once a week with a soak, a bit of a massage with oils, plenty of creams and potions and a pedicure although I never get as far as painting my nails. I have ugly feet so try to make them look better by treating them well. So I think I can include this as a ritual and one that actually helps me to feel better about my feet – they are probably the softest most cared for part of my body!!
The shopping ritual
I have a shopping ritual but it hardly ever occurs on the same day. I like going round to Sainsbury’s one night after work and sitting for 10 minutes in their café having my hot chocolate treat before having a wander round the clothes, the housewares, the magazines and even the plants. Then I will go hunting for grocery bargains and lastly choosing from all the fresh veg. The downside of this ritual is the temptation!
The writing ritual
The book mentions writing as a ritual – I did write a lot more in my journal but since I have been blogging I find this is infrequent now and this is a shame as rereading my journals reminds me of my life’s journey and all those little things I might have forgotten if I had not written them down.
The coffee and a chat ritual
I also have a ritual of popping round to my neighbour’s house on a Friday afternoon to share our weekly news and have a cuppa – lovely.
The fallen spiritual ritual
I used to have a ritual of going to church – latterly the Quakers but I rarely go now. Of all the things I would like to do going back to the Quakers would be way up the list.
It is apparent now I have catalogued my rituals – well the ones I can think of tonight – that I need to look at doing them more regularly in some cases and fine tuning them a little more in others so that they are what a ritual should really be – a series of actions performed according to a prescribed order – and where I can take simple pleasure from these tasks.
There are other rituals I would like to develop – perhaps buying flowers every week for the house – maybe even growing cutting flowers, reading a book, sketching or painting daily, taking a daily photograph, crafting …I could go on but I have to be realistic. This exercise has shown me I can perhaps fit in a few more rituals to my daily life if like the book suggests I manage to simplify my domestic tasks to allow time for creative ones.
Do you have rituals in your life?