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A new journey…

I know I am a little late in saying this but…

Happy New Year 2015


After a long and sometimes difficult year I was quite glad to say goodbye to 2014 and welcome the new year – a fresh start and a new journey – below is a quick photo reminder from some of my posts last year which include one or two of the more memorable moments.

2014 in pictures


However, only a few days into 2015 we received a phone call from the care home where my mum in law lived to say mum was in A&E after being resuscitated from a choking incident.  Sadly she never regained any consciousness and died a few days later only days away from her 91st birthday.  Such a sad end – but her quality of life had not been good for the past 6 months with the worsening of her dementia and the Parkinson’s so in a way it was a blessing for her that she slipped away peacefully to a long earned rest.

Just before this drama occurred I had begun writing this post and thinking about what I might do this year as I pictured a whole new year stretching out in front of me – quite unblemished, as it was then, like a fresh fall of snow before any footprints appear.

I began by thinking about my focus word for the year – last year it was Focus and for the early part of the year this kept me on track, but as the year went by my Focus changed not surprisingly when we experienced the flood.  The impact that has had on our lives together with my colleague being off work ill has been tremendous.  Now I feel I need to get back on track, sort myself out and turn my dream of a simple and healthier life into reality.

After much deliberation over words I have finally chosen Wellbeing – I believe this encompasses all I want to achieve this year.

I wasn’t too sure exactly what came under the umbrella of wellbeing so I started with the dictionary definition

well-being or wellbeing
a contented state of being happy and healthy and prosperous

Of course I had to go and choose a word that had alternative spellings and after checking up on the difference I have chosen to go without the hyphen – this is the more modern interpretation as wellbeing is becoming a recognised term in its own right and I am told the hyphen will eventually be dropped just as similar ‘brought together’ words have in the past – I am just helping to accelerate that transition – so I apologise to any traditionalists that may be reading this!

My choice of Wellbeing is not because I feel really unhappy, unhealthy or lacking but the state of good health is not just the absence of disease – well not in my mind anyway.  If anything this last year has been quite a roller coaster from start to finish even the most positive of events – becoming 60 and a grandma within a couple of weeks was equally as stressful and emotionally challenging as becoming homeless due to the flood!

I have read that by taking care of what is important in one area can make life easier in another. Likewise, neglecting one area can negatively affect another. It is all about keeping life in balance – so I will be putting this to the test.

The areas that I will be looking to bring into balance are probably the same for most people who work and run a home

  • Personal & Leisure & Family – taking care of myself and allowing time for myself to enjoy my day-to-day life as well as spending time with friends and my family – it will take into account my hobbies and things I like doing recreationally – maybe starting new ones who knows!
  • Home – this is how I will deal with all the management of the house – housekeeping – decorating – gardening – general upkeep
  • Health – the goal here is to become healthier both physically and mentally and will include exercising – meal planning and putting to right any niggling health issues
  • Work – I think this speaks for itself – I definitely need to find an answer to reduce the long hours I have been forced into doing
  • Finances – this area had plenty of focus last January but is ready for another minor overhaul

In addition I want to take steps to slow down, where possible the pace of my life, and make it simpler so that I am able to live the moment and enjoy the day and not feel quite so guilty when I find I am doing one thing instead of dealing with another.

So there we are Project Wellbeing – all I have to do now is work out a plan of action and I feel my first task is to establish some routines to provide some stability to my life.

Hope you all have a good weekend – I have a bit of catching up to do in blog world but I know from my quick scans of my favourite blogs that many of you are well into any new challenges you have set for yourselves  I hope I will have time to leave the odd comment again soon but this might be after the funeral when life has calmed down a bit over here. x


21 thoughts on “A new journey…”

  1. Wellbeing…so inspiring and it really resonates with me too. 2014 was one of the most difficult years I’ve ever had. One of the things I’ve committed to this new year is regular journalling. I am keeping this post in mind now as I sign off line now and write today’s journal entry. Happy New Year to you!


  2. So sorry to hear about your Mum in Law, not a nice way to start a fresh new year.

    A very Happy New Year to you too, I hope it picks up for you and your focus word ‘Wellbeing’ is a really good one. I look forward to some more posts about it.


  3. Sorry to hear about your mother in law.

    Best wishes to you for the rest of 2015, wellbeing is a great word for the year.


  4. Hugs re your mother-in-law. Wellbeing, with or without the hyphen, is a good focus. And one which I think many of us need to do. What is this work-life balance of which the media write? Time for one’s health and home! I wish!


  5. I am sorry to hear your sad news Vivien. Wellbeing is a good word choice for 2015. I think many of us could do with some wellbeing this year! It is so difficult to get balance in the things we do. I can never do anything recreational without feeling guilty – so that needs to change. I hope the rest of year has a gentle incline towards happiness for you. x


  6. Life keeps throwing you curve balls, doesn’t it? I’m sorry to hear of the passing of your mother in law. Though her quality of life had deteriorated, and she is now at rest, its still a lot of emotions to manage and details to handle. Sending good thoughts your way.

    I like your Project Wellbeing. It’s a good list and nice to have a place to focus your efforts. My word this year is connections.

    I hope life is smoothing out a bit since you wrote this. Alys


    1. Still up and down – I have just been to look after baby L for a few days while my daughter had an operation. Although I loved my time with baby L my daughter had a rough time and is now recovering slowly. Not much more could have happened in January! Thanks for your well wishes and I look forward to reading about your 2015 connections.


      1. I’m so sorry to hear further difficult news. Your poor daughter. It’s hard enough having a little one to take care of, without your own untimely troubles. I wish her the very best. I’m glad you could take care of the little one. Holding good thoughts for all of you.


          1. Thanks for taking a moment to reply. I will keep you in my thoughts, and look forward to hearing from you when time permits. Life throws us curve balls. Sometimes more than one and from far afield.


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